the second one is in short: Everyone percieves things differently and you are dealing with that perception, "reality" is the area where multiple perceptions intersect (or appear to). Also everyone brings their _baggage_ to something which will further alter their perceptions, the more baggage, the more skewed the perception.
For example someone who's been married six times and has had disastrous marriages each time than someone who has been married mostly happily to the same person for 45 years, and the person who is still in the honeymoon stage of their first marriage.
Each of the three has a valid, real view of marriage, that is different from the others and informed by their experience. Hence marriage will _appear_ to be different to each of them.
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Date: 2008-09-01 01:22 am (UTC)For example someone who's been married six times and has had disastrous marriages each time than someone who has been married mostly happily to the same person for 45 years, and the person who is still in the honeymoon stage of their first marriage.
Each of the three has a valid, real view of marriage, that is different from the others and informed by their experience. Hence marriage will _appear_ to be different to each of them.